I just passed a chiropractic office message board that read, “Listen to your body whisper to avoid a scream.” I want to add two more sentences to that seemingly casual yet profound wisdom…
“Listen to your HEART whisper to avoid a scream.
Listen to your SOUL whisper to avoid a scream.”
As I’ve mentioned in previous blogs, I’ve gone through periods of intense growing pains, as I’m sure you can relate to. We’ve all been there… some of us more than once! And we’ll go through even more as we grow in wisdom, strength, and self-awareness. We are able to recognize our authentic selves and step more fully into the life we are meant to lead.
The first thing that happened to me is exactly what the chiropractor’s sign said, the whisper became a scream or as I put it in my blog post titled Intuition: Trusting the Voice Within (9/13/2015), the breeze became a hurricane. Suddenly, I realized that while every situation in life contains positive and negative aspects, the negative in my job outweighed any positive benefits, including money. I wrote in What is My Tipping Point? (7/10/2015) “When the negative outweighs the positive in our relationships, careers, or other aspects of life, it’s time to ask, ‘What’s my tipping point? How much will I tolerate before I say ENOUGH?'”
I heightened my awareness of the whispers in my body, heart, and soul. I more fully honored my intuition. “To successfully experience life’s constant changes, I must heed the still, small voice within so I can wisely decide what must be done for my greatest and highest good. In other words, I must TRUST MYSELF.” That’s what intuition is really… trust in one’s self. I was at my tipping point and I said “ENOUGH”.
So now what? At 47, I was asking “What do I want to be when I grow up?” I felt ridiculous and a failure. I should be planning my approaching retirement not a new career, right? Wrong. The best thing to do when my life feels like a size 8 foot trying to cram into a size 6 shoe is make a change. And sooner is better than later or not at all.
I knew I wanted to have meaning in my life, find greater joy in what I was doing, and do something that spoke to who I am creatively and spiritually. I had to be authentic and let my talents and skills shine. As I considered what to do next, I asked myself what has become the most important question of my life. “Can I be authentic here?” If the answer is “Yes”, I am right where I should be on my journey. If the answer is “No”, it’s not time to panic… it’s time to TRANSFORM.
We want to be where we belong, where we find meaning, where we experience joy, and where we can be ourselves. I’m not talking about modifying behavior to appropriately suit a social situation. I’m talking about having the courage to be who we are. Instead of playing the role of “the chameleon” to fit in with others, having the self-love and self-acceptance to be authentic and see how life blooms in a richer, deeper way. Doors will open and opportunities will come your way.
Authentic living is empowered living.
Authentic living is the life you are meant to lead.
To be authentic takes great courage and strength. There is a vulnerability in letting people see that we are who we are. Once I let my authentic self come out to play, I found a career where my experience as a world traveler, artist, teacher, writer, and spiritual being have a place.
I’m still growing, learning, and trying new things. I’m making richer, more meaningful connections with those who matter. And every step of the way, I continue to ask, “Can I be authentic here?”.