I’ve been craving space, knowing that life, like the earth, has seasons. Autumn is ending and the last of the crops have been gathered before a period of rest. It’s getting dark earlier. Snow will most likely fall tomorrow and there is little else to do outside. So I eagerly anticipate winter for it symbolizes the winter in the cycle of my life – a time when I can go more deeply within, rest, wait, emerge transformed. I honor these cycles and learn from them.
I was overdoing it. The perfectionist in me loved the committees, obligations, and productivity that I had over the last couple of years. The authentic me, buried beneath the to-do lists, longed to step into the light and just BE. As my commitments came to an end, I refused to “fill the void” with yet more committees and obligations. Instead, I chose to sit in the growing space and settle in. A little space felt good and more space felt even better. I respected what I was feeling and stretched out my arms, embracing the mystery. I don’t need to “be” anything other that me.
I have to warn you. If you are brave enough to try this, some people won’t understand. They have expectations for you. They remember the old you and want you to stay that way, for if you reveal your authentic self and come from a place of inner knowing, they have to take closer looks at themselves, too. Not every one is comfortable with change. Be okay with that. And be okay with the fact that some relationships will fall away to make way for relationships that align with who you are, NOT with who you were.
I also have to warn you that like-minded people will suddenly surround you. Kindred spirits will respond favorably to the change and affirm your decision to be YOU, for they have traveled similar paths. You’ll be amazed at who appears in your life and the new opportunities that come with your growing authenticity.
This has been my experience over the last few months. I love the way it feels yet acknowledge a part of me that is uncomfortable with the growing space… that perfectionist who adamantly says, “I should be doing more.” “I should say yes to all the things people want me to do.” “It’s selfish to self-nurture.” Right? Wrong!! That’s just fear and insecurity calling out in desperation to be recognized. That’s the voice I listened to in the past. But I want something more for myself so I ignore that desire to please and produce and continue to sit in the space I’m creating and nurture myself.
So I’ve stopped saying yes to every request for my time & energy. I’m only saying yes to things that stir my soul and energize me. To get back to my nature analogy, the earth goes through periods of birth, death, and rebirth. So do we. Some call them “chapters” of their lives. Some say they are “entering a new phase”. Whatever you call it, honor it. Surrender and see where it leads.
My period of rest has given me the time to get to know my true self- Pure Susan. I like where I am going and I like who I am traveling the road with.
I’ll be exploring this & other related topics in my next several blogs. How do we create space? How do we say no to energy-suckers? When opportunities to fill the space come along, how do we know which will nourish and which will drain? How profoundly can life change when we say “Yes!” to what stirs our souls?
I can’t shed everything that no longer serves (yet) but by shedding what I can, I create a sacred space for my authentic self to grow and reach for the sunlight of all possibilities.