Have you heard the metaphor about the stones, pebbles, & sand? It’s resonating with me on a deeper level because I have friends facing challenges ranging from cancer to damage from a house fire. This jar is my visual reminder to focus on what really matters. It has a permanent place on my desk 🙂
Life is full of stones, small pebbles, & sand. The stones are the big things that matter most, like our loved ones, friends, spirituality, & health. The pebbles are the things that are important but shouldn’t take priority over the stones. These vary from person to person but might include work, hobbies, committees, & other responsibilities. The sand is all the “filler” like errands, chores, etc… If you fill your life with sand-sized concerns, you will have no room for the large stones. But, if you focus on your large stones first, you can add pebbles & sand in measures that are right for you.
Have you noticed how the pebbles & sand-sized parts of your life vie for attention, acting like they are the large stones? That happened to me today. As I waited to get word about a friend having brain surgery, someone called to talk about her work-related drama. It was hard to give “sand” attention when one of my stones weighed heavy on my mind.
Yes, there is sand in our jars, too. The house needs cleaned & laundry needs washed. However, when I feel like I’m up to my neck in sand, it’s time to get life back in balance. Commit to my priorities by giving myself permission to say, “No”.
What are your stones? your pebbles? your grains of sand? Does your jar have the right measure of each for you?