I had an epiphany while walking the dogs last night. (Keep in mind that my epiphanies sometimes occur only after I’ve figuratively beat my head against a wall not once, not twice, but three or more times!) I realized that I’m trying to change things that aren’t mine to change. You’ve probably felt this way at some point– helplessly watching a friend battle addiction, a sister suffer in a bad relationship, or a co-worker compromise their principles for the safety of a paycheck. Perhaps, your concerns are even bigger– animal cruelty, global warming, or the state of our nation’s educational system.
When we care passionately, we want to help. When we care passionately, we want to fix it & make it all better. When we care passionately, we sometimes have to let go. This makes sense to our brain but takes longer for our heart & soul to admit. “Yes, I know that but I can’t give up.” The bottom line is that we don’t want to give up because we see it as a sign of failure.
Giving ourselves permission to let go of things beyond our control isn’t failure; it’s an opportunity to redirect our time, energy, & emotions in a more productive & positive way. Maybe it’s time for some soul-searching. Am I putting my energy where it can do the most good? Should I take that energy & put it elsewhere? Approach your Self with love, compassion, & empathy. It’s not failure to let go of what wasn’t yours to hold in the first place. Peace.